Is a child is physically injured as a result of spanking, is it child abuse? Should your parents beat you to get a message across?

In my opinion, it really isn't nessisary unless what ever you did is really really bad, as in in put your life or the life of others in danger. Ohterwise, take something away.

btw: I have never been grounded, do you think it's effective when your parents do that?

Well, I think there is a fine line between spanking and beating. I have been spanked before. I have never been beaten. Spanking is totally fine to me. This totally depends on what you feel is over the line and okay.

Spanking is discipline, as long as there is no bruises or cuts it's not abuse

What he said i was Spanked once befor and from then on I nevre smashed a window since. Its ok if you kids are bad but beating is unesasry.

Spanking: I don't believe in spanking. Even if it's a smack, there are better ways to teach your child a lesson than hitting them. You could discipline them in other ways from a young child beyond. I don't think any form of hitting is good. No one wants to be hit, not even if you're a little kid who doesn't understand it. Even if it's a spank, it'll hurt. I think then it'll influence your child and they'll remember being spanked and just do it to their kid.

Beating: Beating is an absolutely no no. I consider getting a belt out and spanking beating. I think hitting a kid with a belt is absolutely awful. I'd divorce someone if I had to or wouldn't marry them to begin with if they thought that way. I think slamming into walls, punching, whipping with a belt, etc, are all AWFUL ways to be taught a lesson.

Grounding: What's the point? There are ways to entertain yourself in a house, it's not like you'll kiss the ground when you're ungrounded. You'll just do it again. I mean maybe if a cell phone is taken, then you learn something, but grounding is just dumb. It's like putting a 5 year old in their room with a bunch of toys. Or a 16 year old in their room with a computer/tv/iPod. You're not going to accomplish anything or learn much.

Bottom line, I don't believe in any of it.
I was never grounded, spanked, or beat.

I think spanking is NOT abuse, but it's rude.
Then again, it depends.
Beating IS abuse.
Grounding is just..dumb.

Spanking is good for discipline. Period. It worked for me and will work for other children. :)

Yeah. I agree with .Black. Spanking a child will undoubtedly make he/she stop doing what he/she is doing.

And in the process, you're teaching the kid that using violence is a great way to solve problems and teach lessons.

If an older brother hits his younger sister, do you smack the brother?

In my house it is the worse form of punishment there is! You know you are in trouble if its even threatened. But also thats generally all it takes is the threat of it because they know if they don't stop it they will get it.

But this is the most extream and should only be done in the most extream cases.

Nir you have a comeback for everything don't you? :P

Umm, I'm sure as the kid gets older he/she will either forget he was spanked or learn that violence doesn't solve problems.

A spank is equal to a smack or tap on the wrist, it does the same thing. When you do something bad like pull your sister's hair, you are spanked and you know not to do that again. When you go to eat out of the cookie jar right before dinner your parent smacks or taps your wrist or arm and you learn not to do that again. These are valuable life lessons that apply later on in life. Pulling hair is wrong and eating junk food before dinner is unhealthy. Spanking is a good way to discipline and teach children what they can and cannot do.

As long as the child isn't injured during the act.

Spanking is discipline. As long as their are no bruises.

I beleive as long as the child isn't hurt, and it is only minor, then it should be okay, but then most people would probably do it badly. So my final answer is spanking shoudn't be done, grounding a child is more better, and it is more effective discipline.

I don't think I ever really got spanked... I always got sent to the infamous, 'naughty chair'

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Spanking children is fine as long as it isn't too often. And a tip! Don't use your hands when you spank a child. Because if you spank them often enough then they will use their hands when they are angry and that isn't too good. Eventually this process will lead to using weapons. In all reality spanking isn't the best idea to punish or discipline a child. However, it still is ok as long as you can control your spanking. If you are not too harsh then its fine. But if you are a heavy weight wrestler then lay off the spanking ok?

IMO yes.

I'm versus this! I remember when i was a kid, i wanted to be treated like a adult. Kids getting grounded will certainly make the kid stops from doing something, but will also get him very sad and angry.

Down with spanking, spanking hurts...lol...No, I think spanking is okay to a certain extent

I have mixed feelings on the issue. It seems like some of the parents who don't spank their children, the children become extremely disobedient with 0% respect for authority figures. But it is said that it's a scientific/psychological study that parents who spank their children influence them into thinking that violence is a way to get someone to do what you want them to do.

Nothing seems to get the point across to kids like a smack on the butt. its not abuse its discapline. you need to punish your children if they are dissobediant.

I think its effectiveness heavily depends on the child in question; some children mimic their parents and will start to use spanking as a step towards general violence, in which case it clearly doesn't work. Other times, it will. Either way though I tend to disagree with it. I don't consider it abuse or anything, I just think there are so many other effective methods that work across the board. Spanking also usually infers a more volatile relationship that can impose a sense of fear, even if it's not done excessively or heavy-handedly. I'd much rather my hypothetical child learned why what they did was wrong so they can actually understand it than simply associated certain acts with being hit (which can be redundant anyway if the child starts to expect it and get used to it). ::sarcastic::

It's abuse spanking childeren >.<! Throw them in jail (the spankers)

I know alot of kids that need to be spanked. Once a child realizes they can be jerks without any sort of reprimendation sort of yelling, they'll walk all over their parents. It turns into a matter of "Go to your room." "...Or what?"